If you think or believe you are "shy" or "withdrawn" then it's time to get a new game plan...
Holding back because you think you are shy is another way of saying "not me".
Stop making the excuse of shyness for you not putting yourself forward into the thick of it...
It may comfort you to say it, but it can never get you the results you say you want. People want to work with others who are certain of themselves, because invariably it's a quality they want for themselves!
How to get the Assertiveness Bug:
1. Know your values and live by them - even when it isn't convenient
2. Be decisive - the more decisions you make, the more assertive you feel
3. Don't wait for assertiveness to show up - it's waiting for you to act!
4. Say no when you need to
5. Use good, clear communication skills - say what you mean with warmth, not fear
6. Be an attentive listener - listen to the other person's point of view completely
7. Say yes when you need to - if you say no because you are afraid, you are missing an opportunity to build your assertiveness muscle
8. Take responsibility for your own actions - act as if it down to you to create the level of confidence and assertiveness you choose
9. Ask for what you want - don't hope others will know, state what you prefer
10. Stand up for yourself
Becoming assertive in your daily life will open many more doors of opportunities, allow a greater influence of friends and colleagues and place you on the pathway to the success you deserve.
Changing your beliefs about being assertive or holding assertiveness is easy to change. Remember ‘beliefs are all just made up bull’ that we have told ourselves over and over again. How about you start telling yourself some of these new beliefs;
• I am wonderful at speaking in front of other people
• I am wonderful at listening and enjoying other peoples company
• I am wonderful at making decisions
• I am assertive when required
See if you notice a change in the next month.
Take care and look forward to next time.
Michael Griffiths
Monday, August 24, 2009
Friday, August 14, 2009
True Intentions
Let’s touch on True Intentions this week. What are True Intentions? ‘True’ meaning what is seen to be correct and ‘Intention’ meaning the act of determining mentally upon some action or result.
This meaning is interesting when we take a closer look. The word ‘mentally’ tells us that your Intention is something in your mind. Something you tell yourself through what I call your “mini-me” (your ego, yourself conscience.)
80% of the population struggle to control their mental thoughts and feelings. This is due to past experiences and habits which have been formed by them. Hence so many people struggle to follow through on their True Intentions.
We can overcome this in a few different ways.
1. Hold ourselves accountable to someone else that we hold in high esteem. It is human behaviour to not want to let someone down and therefore we take action.
2. Build a dream with so much desire that we are forced to take action daily.
3. Build a support team around us, a group of networks, and other successful people within your field. We breed success by watching success.
It is always easy to tell what someone’s true intentions are; we are all great at talking a good game, saying we are going to do something and not following through. A person’s true intention is what their actions do, it is results driven and quite often it can be harsh to realise that we don’t follow through on our true intentions a lot of the time.
A great business mind once said “Beliefs are all bullshit, they hold people back and stop them from following their true intentions by making excuses for them”
What are your true intentions and are you taking action daily to help follow your path and dreams.
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This meaning is interesting when we take a closer look. The word ‘mentally’ tells us that your Intention is something in your mind. Something you tell yourself through what I call your “mini-me” (your ego, yourself conscience.)
80% of the population struggle to control their mental thoughts and feelings. This is due to past experiences and habits which have been formed by them. Hence so many people struggle to follow through on their True Intentions.
We can overcome this in a few different ways.
1. Hold ourselves accountable to someone else that we hold in high esteem. It is human behaviour to not want to let someone down and therefore we take action.
2. Build a dream with so much desire that we are forced to take action daily.
3. Build a support team around us, a group of networks, and other successful people within your field. We breed success by watching success.
It is always easy to tell what someone’s true intentions are; we are all great at talking a good game, saying we are going to do something and not following through. A person’s true intention is what their actions do, it is results driven and quite often it can be harsh to realise that we don’t follow through on our true intentions a lot of the time.
A great business mind once said “Beliefs are all bullshit, they hold people back and stop them from following their true intentions by making excuses for them”
What are your true intentions and are you taking action daily to help follow your path and dreams.
Until next time please follow us through one of our other communication methods. We look forward to sharing more thoughts and personal development with you soon.
http://twitter.com/mcjsbusiness
http://www.facebook.com/mcjsbusiness
www.mcjsbusiness.blogspot.com
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Self Help - Part 1
Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be. "George Sheehan"
Complete this exercise;
Write out the following
* What do you want to accomplish in the next 12 months?
* In the next 2 years
* In the next 5 years
* What will it give you when you have achieved this? What will it allow you to do?
Read this statement every day
Have fun!
Complete this exercise;
Write out the following
* What do you want to accomplish in the next 12 months?
* In the next 2 years
* In the next 5 years
* What will it give you when you have achieved this? What will it allow you to do?
Read this statement every day
Have fun!
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
There Is Good In This World - Well Done Boys!
Thanks to the Coaching Insitute for this piece....
Two Choices
What would you do?....you make the choice. Don't look for a punch line, there isn't one. Read it anyway. My question is: Would you have made
the same choice?
At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves learning-disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never
be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question: "When not interfered with by outside
influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand
things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?"
The audience was stilled by the query. The father continued. "I believe that when a child like Shay, physically and mentally handi-capped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize
true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child."
Then he told the following story:
Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, "Do you think they'll let me play?"
Shay's father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to
play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.
Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance
and said, "We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the
ninth inning."
Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. His Father watched with a small tear in his eye and warmth in
his heart. The boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.
In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game
and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the
bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.
At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all
but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.
However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved
in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took
a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.
The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been
out and that would have been the end of the game.
Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started
yelling, "Shay, run to first! Run to first!" Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline,
wide-eyed and startled.
Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!" Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the
base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball . the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be
the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally
threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.
All were screaming, "Shay , Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay" Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the
direction of third base, and shouted, "Run to third! Shay, run to third!"
As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, "Shay, run home! Run home!" Shay ran to home,
stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.
"That day", said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, "the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world".
Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his father so happy, and coming home and
seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!
Two Choices
What would you do?....you make the choice. Don't look for a punch line, there isn't one. Read it anyway. My question is: Would you have made
the same choice?
At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves learning-disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never
be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question: "When not interfered with by outside
influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand
things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?"
The audience was stilled by the query. The father continued. "I believe that when a child like Shay, physically and mentally handi-capped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize
true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child."
Then he told the following story:
Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, "Do you think they'll let me play?"
Shay's father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to
play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.
Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance
and said, "We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the
ninth inning."
Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. His Father watched with a small tear in his eye and warmth in
his heart. The boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.
In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game
and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the
bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.
At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all
but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.
However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved
in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took
a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.
The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been
out and that would have been the end of the game.
Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started
yelling, "Shay, run to first! Run to first!" Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline,
wide-eyed and startled.
Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!" Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the
base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball . the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be
the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally
threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.
All were screaming, "Shay , Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay" Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the
direction of third base, and shouted, "Run to third! Shay, run to third!"
As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, "Shay, run home! Run home!" Shay ran to home,
stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.
"That day", said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, "the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world".
Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his father so happy, and coming home and
seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!
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